Lately around the office where I work there has been way too much talk about the flower-picking, cake-tasting, venue-searching, dress stress of weddings. See, 90% of the office I work at is women. And ONE of them is getting married in less than 4 months. But you see, it only takes one woman, one wedding, to make every other woman in a 100 foot radius start reminiscing about their day as cinderella or, if they aren’t married yet, start dreaming about how perfect their day will be.
Don’t get me wrong, dreaming about your wedding day and how beautiful and perfect you want it to be, there is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with having BIG, extravagant weddings if that is what you want. But it just wasn’t for me.
My wedding was incredibly small and simple. And stress free and fun and relaxed. One of the best days of my life! I had a total of 19 people at my wedding. My husband and I got married in a small chapel in Gatlinburg, TN that did the flowers, the music, the decorations, and even supplied a cake. The “reception”? We all headed back to the cabin my husband and I would be staying at for our honeymoon. My mother-in law made the food. It was all simple finger foods and it was all delicious. My mom and Aunt worked together and made some gorgeous decorations and center pieces. Our DJ? An Ipod hooked up to my dads small sound system he had brought with him. We all ate and danced and talked and just had fun. It was perfect.
So why did I choose a small wedding? Well the majority of the answers are pretty obvious but I’ll go ahead and spell it out. 😉
1. WAY less stress
I believe I already stated this but I will state it again because this was such a big deal today. I literally felt no stress my wedding day. Everything was planned out and taken care of. Everything was simple but well put together. I was able to relax and enjoy getting up, going and getting my hair done. Going to lunch with my family. Getting dressed and ready with my ONE bridesmaid. It was….well fun!
2. There was NO financial stress added BECAUSE of the wedding
The chapel was something my parents could afford. It didn’t stress them out because it wasn’t thousands of dollars. It was a beautiful chapel in the mountains. It was also small and very affordable. My mother-in-law pitched in by buying and making all the food. This wasn’t expensive either because there was only 19 of us. My dad was an awesome FREE “DJ”. He picked out some great music and put together a great playlist for us to dance and have fun to. No fancy lights, no HUGE cake or expensive cocktails. But that day felt like a million bucks. 🙂
3. I was able to “cut up” more
The fact that I only had 19 people at my wedding meant that I only invited people very near and dear to mine and my husbands hearts. It was majority family with a couple of life long friends. Because the only people that were at my wedding were people I loved and knew very well, I was able to let loose more! I didn’t feel the need to entertain everyone. I didn’t have to go around and have awkward small talk with guest I’m not even sure who they are. I felt like I was able to be more “me”. After all, it was MY day.
I’m sure I can think of plenty more reasons for having a small wedding but these were the biggest reasons for me. It really felt like the day was mine and my husbands. It wasn’t a show put on for everyone else. It was sincerely about my husband and I coming together as one (sorry, got a little cheesy there for a second).
Before I finish I will note there was ONE bad thing about having a small wedding. Narrowing down the guest list to 20 or less. I had to tell some of my best friends that they were not invited. MOST of them understood. Some of them were a little selfish about it. But oh well. It was my day. The guest list did cause a little stress before the wedding. But as for the wedding day? I wouldn’t have it any other way.